What is so SPECIAL on year 2012?

I have said in my previous post that 2012 is a year that holds a very special place in my heart - a prelude to my journey to infinity with my soon to be ex boyfriend. So what is so special on year 2012?

1. We have reached the “100th month”on year 2012, 16th of January.

To reach it, you have to surpass the eight year anniversary (12*8 years=96 months plus another 4 months)! True enough, reaching "100th month" of a relationship is a milestone that is worth celebrating for. 

If you want to know more how we celebrated our 100th in our own special way, you can read it here: It's our 100th and there's always someone who will love me.

2. Soon to be ex-bf gave me flowers at last!

After 100th month, ex-bf finally gave me flowers. I hear wedding bells. (assuming lang). I have set a condition before I will say I do: for him to give me a bouquet of flowers at least once. 

This was really unexpected, PLUS FACTOR: it was delivered in my office. (ang haba-haba ng hair ko, ako na!) Ex-bf in his own unique ways is also sweet noh! 

3. First of May = Pamamanhikan

We have finally set the "meeting of the parents" on Labor Day, first of May 2012. Everything went smoothly and everyone was happy on the "pamamanhikan". 

Both sides have agreed that we are already on our right age to get married. (Naman!) It is so flattering that finally ex-bf and soon to be in-laws ask my hands from my mother.

4. First time to celebrate anniversary out of town. 

365 days before a decade! I know you will agree that this is worthy of celebration. To make it extra special, we have celebrated our 9th anniversary in Palawan.

We usually celebrate our anniversary by a simple date in our favorite mall. But for this year, we wanted to innovate, we opted to celebrate our anniversary in a not so far away place, the island of Coron.

5. We are both given the privilege to be the secondary sponsor on the wedding of one of our closest friend since college.

It is always an honor to be a guest on a wedding of a family or a close friend. I did not realize this when I was younger. I did not appreciate attending wedding ceremonies or even being a bridesmaid back then.

But at my age, I came to realize that both bride and groom put so much effort on wedding preparations for it to be successful and at the same time memorable. One of the aspect of wedding preparations is coming up with a guest list. This is one of the hardest task on planning a wedding because all other aspects specifically logistics is dependent on how many guest you intend to invite on your wedding. Sure no one is hindering you to invite all your friends, family members and colleague but you have to put in mind that every additional guest means additional peso out of you and your partner savings. And besides, no one wants to have a wedding and see not-so-familiar faces that you have not seen for decades.

My soon to be ex-bf and myself had the privilege to be a part of the entourage of our good friend. He was the male veil sponsor and I am the female chord sponsor. The bride told us that she did not let us do the same task because it was forbidden for a real couple to be partners in the entourage. I did not know that there is a Filipino proverb about this but hey there is no harm in following the proverb.

Yes, for year 2012 we have yet to witness and do an important tasks for the wedding of our good friend. The role will bring readiness and guidance to us on our own marriage next year. :) 

Budget Day = Blogging Day

October 26, 2012 is a regular holiday in the observance of  Eidul Adha or the Feast of Sacrifice.It is also the scheduled date for me to draft a wedding budget that will be presented to the soon to be ex-bf for deliberations and approval. I have not follow the schedule because when I came in front of my notebook, I have visited wedding blogs and thoroughly enjoyed blog hopping. I have to attend  also to our tiny miracle from God. It pained me not to give her my 100% attention.

Budget Day = Blogging Day! In order to set things straight, I decided to create a blog that will feature not only our wedding preparations but our love, friendship, and our journey to infinity.

Title of the blog? Anyone? I wanted to be creative and unique on our blog title. The first one that came to my mind is Bride of a Gaming Addict. But my mind disagree with the idea, I certainly believe that soon to be ex-bf is no longer a gaming addict (meaning ba nito gaming addict siya before? hehe). Bride of an Anime Lover? Bride of an Anime Addict? .......... Bride of a Gaming Lover! There it goes. 

While blog hopping, I have came across an article that is fitting to introduce our wedding blog title:

Source: http://www.uproxx.com/feature/2010/12/why-gamers-make-great-boyfriends/2/

Why Gamers Make Great Boyfriends (and Great Fiance)

1. Gamers know the value of planning ahead.

2. Gamers know the value of being on time.

3. Gamers can deal with annoying people.

4. Gamers are great at repetitive tasks.

5. Gamers, above all, are grown ups too.

Well, I agree on all of the above. Oh yeah, I'm bride of a gaming lover! A bride of a man who is an expert on his chosen hobby but is NEVER  a novice on winning the heart of his woman.

2012 Bride - No More!

It was the latter part of  year 2011 when I have asked my soon to be ex-bf what are his wedding plans. He told me to just wait - once the future father in law pays a vacation to our country, they will surely go to our home and ask my hand from my mother.

Future father in law's vacation will not push through on year 2011 so there will be no "pamamanhikan" on our eight year anniversary as we I originally planned. I am not disappointed on the change of events because honestly, I am still enjoying our bf-gf stage and my unmarried life.

Early part of 2012, I have told my soon to be ex-bf that I intend to rent an apartment on my own because of some matters I choose not to discuss here. He have offered me their house in order to save on monthly rent expense. But I know he just want to spy on me - an outgoing person like me will surely have more bonding night with girlfriends(I don't want to call it night outs) if I am living on my own. I do not agree with the idea of living on their house lest we are married, there's still a Maria Clara in me eh!

During our wedding discussions, I have also told him that if my mother will just agree, I will opt to have a civil wedding for practical reasons. Back then, I disagree with the idea of spending lots of moolah for just a one day event. But my soon to be ex-bf on his not so usual one of a kind gesture of sweetness wants to give me a church wedding though. He told me that I am a girl, the eldest and first to get married in our family so he bet my mother will not agree on the idea of a civil wedding.

Soon to be ex-bf have told his parents my intention to rent an apartment on my own. He have also told them that I am agreeable on a civil wedding. Future parents in law suggested to us that we get civilly married so it will be just for me to live on their house, since I wanted back then to rent an apartment on my own. Soon to be ex-bf even told me that future father in law want it to be scheduled once he pays a vacation to his homeland, could either be first quarter or second quarter of year 2012.

It hit me! Am I having wedding jitters? Am I ready for the wedding? Am I ready to face married life? What gets me anxious back then is the thought of not having to share bed with my mother, my sister and our tiny miracle from God, my very first niece. I dread on the idea of not being able to sleep beside my mother and not being able to cuddle my cute niece before we go to sleep. As far as I remember the feeling goes on for several days but my soon to be ex-bf told me that the wedding will not be to soon because he really want a church wedding. Church wedding will entail more preparations than a civil wedding so it will take time to finally set the ceremony and the wedding event itself.

Yes, I have planned to get married on year 2012 but I have come to realize that one essential aspect of wedding planning is mind setting. You have to get your mind ready for the inevitable changes because your life will no longer be the same when you say I do, it will not be your journey anymore, it will be a journey of two people who choose to love each other to infinity. 

2012 Bride - No More! I will no longer be a 2012 Bride - but 2012 is a year that holds a very special place to my heart. It is a prelude to my journey to infinity with my soon to be ex boyfriend.

2012 Bride?

During the early part of my relationship with my soon to be ex-boyfriend, I have told him that we will get married upon reaching my twenty seven years of existence on earth. I have asked him (just don't know if he still remember this though) to propose on our eight year and we'll get married after exactly a year, our ninth year of love and friendship, September 2012. It will fall on a Sunday and I have turned 27 by then. I have only set one condition before I will say yes: for him to give me a bouquet of flowers at least once. (He's not the type of guy who will give bouquet of flowers on anniversaries, birthdays and valentines day and I think I am not the type of girl who crave for that kind of gifts. Pero sana naman bago ikasal maranasan kong mabigyan ng una at huling bf ko ng bulaklak noh!)

Came our eight year anniversary, no proposal. My 27th birthday, no proposal. No proposal, no bouquet of flowers. Will I be a 2012 bride? Will I be married at the age of twenty-seven?