When is the best time to start your wedding preps?

So what's next after engagement? Do we start the wedding preparations right away? Do we start it a week after or a month after?

As for our case, we have a year to prepare before the target date of our wedding which is next year month of June. Friends told me that as early as possible we should start the essential parts of wedding preparations: booking the church, reception venue, and caterer. Plus the fact that June is the most popular wedding month, it is better to book earlier or else we can no longer choose our desired date.

Came month of June this year, I have told the soon to be ex-bf that we start the preparations in order to seal the date. Soon to be ex-bf disagree on the idea, he told me that it is too early to prepare. I am somewhat disappointed because I felt that he is not excited or even worse he is having second thoughts. I have stop looking for wedding inspirations in the net. I have asked soon to be ex-bf when will we start the wedding preparations and he told me that we start either October or November. 

After our ninth year anniversary last September, I again tried to convince my soon to be ex-bf if we can now prepare for our wedding. I am hoping he will be give in to what I wanted since we had a happy anniversary celebration. Again, I failed! Disappointment again. I told myself that I will not bother him again on the wedding preps, I will not talk again about the wedding unless he initiates it. 

As I told in my previous post, we will be secondary sponsors on the renewal of vows of our good friend. I asked the soon to be ex-bf to accompany me on my dress fitting on the first week of October. The dress fitting schedule coincides with the church wedding of our friend. The couple invited us to sleep over on their house together with their best man, who have just arrived from Dubai and also a good friend of us. It was indeed a very memorable night not only to our newly wed friends but to all of us, we appreciate the couple's desire to spend their first night with us, they rekindle their love, we all rekindle our friendships. 

On our way back to Metro Manila, I was surprised when the soon to be ex-bf initiates the talk about our wedding. He told me that her mother have asked him what we are up to. I told him, "See, we should have prepared months ago." But I was delighted that finally he showed interest on our wedding details. He have asked me what color motif I would love to have. He also suggested a different kind of prenuptial pictorial.  Yey, finally we will work as a team on planning our dream wedding.

So when is the best time to start your wedding preps? I think it is when both of you are ready to start the dirty works of planning a wedding. Both should have their mind set and prepared to work as a team in planning not only their wedding but more importantly, their marriage. It is not only the bride's big day, it is also the groom's or better yet, it is both the bride and groom's prelude to infinity.